Personal Beliefs

Response to Posts by Ciaran, May 30, 2008

“The truth is that only you make yourself happy. The only person in this world and life that you can unconditionally love and trust is yourself. No one and nothing else will fulfill that.”

Reflections on my journey and personal growth, May 19, 2008

“…I can now fully say that there is NOTHING wrong with sex.  Being a slut or a man-whore to get validation doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with sex, it just means that there is something wrong with trying to get validation.”

“[Change] hasn’t been simple or easy, it’s just that the results have made things feel simple and easy.”

“Seriously, it just all comes down to total and complete acceptance.  Are you fat and ugly?  Who cares.  Accept it.  Move on.  Do you get approach anxiety?  Who cares.  Accept it.  Move on.”

“…you don’t get mad at mountains for just sitting there.  You can yell, scream, punch, fight, and hate the mountain, but it doesn’t care at all, and it continues to sit there.”

Competence Versus Mastery, April 21, 2008

“That’s what it really comes down to, experience and knowledge. If you’ve gone far enough to remove your own personal boundaries, then anything is possible, which is a marvellous thing.”

“Once your brain starts realizing that it should be making decisions by and for yourself, there’s no longer a need to ask people for advice or help. No one else can tell you what it is that YOU WANT.”

“…you get this internal strength that allows you to withdraw from the chaos of the world around you. You no longer react to what happens around you, you just are living within yourself. The world is unfamiliar, scary, and at times doesn’t make sense because it is not based on your own personal rules. Internally your world is secure, safe, and familiar because… well it’s you.”

I Don’t Open Sets, I Open Legs, April 18, 2008

“There are several things that I think we all can agree with that are bad for your life, and especially in a life when you’re trying to meet women in an advanced way: VALIDATION and NEEDINESS.”

“Fundamentally, I just think there is a circular kind of fucked up logic that goes on like crazy within this little sub-culture of ours. We join this community because we want to ‘get better with women” or the vomit inducing and mega-cliche “I want to handle this part of my life’.

We get here, we make friends with guys who are in the same boat as us, and wow the sense of belonging how amazing. V&N.

Then we go out together, and you see who can open the most sets. V&N.

You post up your Field Report, hoping that guys give you feedback and tell you how fucking awesome it was that you went out, opened 10 sets, got 4 #C’s, blah blah blah. V&N.”

“Ok, so this is the big question that I constantly find myself asking when I read a lot of things within here… are you a ‘Cold Approach Artist’ or are you a ‘Seducer’?”

“Actually, after paying close attention to what he does, I noticed that it’s a trend, and I really do believe it is the one single trait between being successful and not being successful in this little world we live in.

Just wanting that pussy.”

“There is NO POINT to doing ANY of this if you aren’t 100% committed to getting laid.

I think that you hopefully can understand the underlying message here. Having the confidence to commit to getting laid equals success.

Are you committed to opening sets? No.
Are you committed to using routines? No.

Am I saying don’t go out and read? Hell no. Actually, there have been things that have come out of my mouth word-for-word from a post from Jeffy on RSD’s forums. Or using some knowledge that I’d gained while reading something Mystery had written. Or even a ton of shit that I’ve read on forums, etc.

The point is that they all are tools for your goal.

And that’s the point of all of this.

Your goal is not to be a COLD APPROACH ARTIST, it’s to be a guy who GETS LAID.

This knowledge is just a TOOL for getting your GOAL.

You ARE NOT your tool.”

My mission statement: Philosophies of Pickup, February 20, 2008

“I think that believing you need routines is just limiting beliefs.  Thinking that routines make it easier to talk to strangers doesn’t have to really do with the routines, it allows someone the ability to believe that they can randomly talk to someone.  I could tell a guy to go bark at a girl and then ask her if she likes puppies, and if he does it, it’s not the line that allowed him to do that, it’s himself.”

“I think this is another f’ed up community mindset as well.  Think about it… why do you need to push every conversation?  Every person you’ve ever met in your life, do you have to be able to have a good conversation with them?  No, of course not.”

“I think one of the biggest flaws in the community is something that I read in a post from Kazz Nova, that “as PUAs we should be able to get any girl we want…” which is completely asinine.  That’s the inner AFC saying, “I need pretty girls to accept me” or really, needing people to accept you in general.”

“…another major issue that I have with the whole community is that there is a HUGE discount on the woman that you’re talking to.  Her feelings, what she’s thinking, her vibe, etc, etc.  I think it’s completely possible to impress the shit out of a girl on a night that she’s not looking to hook up, but I also think that there’s a whole shit load of times that a girl is just NOT INTERESTED!”

“Then I started dropping it all.  The routines, the bullshit, the outcome orientation, the “needing to number close”, whatever, and instead focusing on being social, making myself a better person and getting to know women that I felt that spark of interest with.  After a while you don’t need routines, or reading her IOIs, or any of that crap, you just start to “feel” what’s going on.  You can feel if she’s interested, you can feel if she likes you, or if she wants you to kiss her.  The reason is because I wasn’t worried about what I’m going to say next, I just wasn’t thinking about anything, and only enjoying the interaction.  If it didn’t feel right, like things were awkward, weird, or whatever, I just walked away.  If things felt really good, receptive, welcoming, and open, then I would get a number, a kiss, an email, a lay, or whatever it lead to.  As a result, I really don’t get that many flakes anymore, but not because I’m such an awesome PUA and all that bullshit, but because I’m not going out there with an outcome in mind, like number-closing or kiss-closing, I’m just going out with the mindset of enjoying myself, and if there’s someone who can add to that, then I see if I can keep it going.  But also not allowing social pressures and preconceived notions stopping me from taking the girl home and fucking her either.”