The Death of a Vagina

This is a tragic story, The Death of a Vagina.  Unfortunately it’s also quite ordinary and often times expected.

It all begins in a whirlwind of events.  You meet her, she is pretty damn cool and sexy and you want that beauteous vajayjay.  Even though you haven’t seen, touched, or smelt it yet, you know you want it.

A date or two, a bit of drinking and before you know it you are naked finally getting to attack the object you desired for a couple of weeks.  Not to mention, this girl is cool, she’s fun, she’s attractive.  You really really like her.

It’s all good.

One phone number, one date, one week, one month, one year… and before you know it you have found “her”, your girl.  You move in together, you have a place.  Things are great.  Sure you fight, sure there’s tension and problems.  Sure, sometimes you are smothering each other, but that’s alright, “all relationships require work”.

But damn… how much work do you need to do?  How much effort do you need to put in to make her happy?  She starts shit with you, you fight, etc.  After awhile being on top of each other the whole situation loses it’s charm, there isn’t quite the fun that there used to be, the conversation is pretty much dead, and you find yourself wanting that life of singledom.

You know what, though?  You are a good guy!  You’re not going to abandon the girl you love to go back to that life.  So you head back to your life and miraculously she’s cool with it (what a surprise – she’s a cool and understanding girl).

“Go hang out with the boys,” she says.  You’re a lucky guy.

Now you’re back in the swing of it, going out, drinking, partying… woo!  The guys are back!

In the meantime your girl is at home, supportive but unloved.  The two of you never have sex anymore.  The romance is gone.  She’s lonely and you’re out with your buddies.  You haven’t been out on a date with each other in months.

She gets restless.

And finally the vagina dies.  She doesn’t even want your touch anymore.  You are barely attracted to her.  She just is this anchor at home that periodically gives you shit about hanging out with your friends.

Tragedy strikes again.

This post has to deal with what I’m hearing from friends coming from several directions.  They’re all in different phases of this situation, but it’s a very common theme.

1.  Whirlwind romance/honeymoon period
2.  Guy drops everything to be with girl
3.  Guy can’t maintain a life of devotion to the pussy
4.  Guy wants to be “free” again
5.  Girl is supportive of guy
6.  Guy runs off with friends all the time and is neglectful of girl
7.  Girl feels unloved and becomes restless
8.  Relationship becomes distant and suffers all around

You know what phrase I hate the most in the entire world?  “Relationships require work”.  What a crock of shit that is.

RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT WORK!!!

Loving someone is positive, happy, and supportive.

Relationships, fundamentally, are a female institution.  As I’ve said before, I don’t believe in monogamy, but I don’t think that people can’t find happiness within monogamy.  The problem is that there is a false myth that monogamy offers stability and it doesn’t.  Additionally, the way that people approach relationships (by giving up everything to get “the pussy”) causes instability.

Let’s look closer at what it is that a woman really wants from her man.  She wants care, love, romance, protection, security, a leader, someone to release to, etc.  And let me tell you, she wants it BAD.

Before getting the vajayjay, it is all worth it.  The romance, the work, the time put in.  But when the chase is gone, so is “the magic”.

The worst thing you could ever do is take away from her that man that she fell in love with, which is unfortunately what most guys do.  There are two options to take here: 1. submit to the pussy and sacrifice everything, 2. show the pussy who’s boss and be a fuckin’ man.

Keep this in mind.  She wants a leader.  And she’ll test that, she’s going to want to suck you into her world and lock you down because it will make her feel secure and safe – well, at least that’s what she thinks, what you really are doing is satisfying her neediness and insecurity.  Telling them, “hey guys, you must be right, so I’m gonna submit to you.”

But you really have to be strict with what you want out of life.  Do you want the instant gratification of on-demand sex with a girl, having a “honeymoon” syndrome, only to have it crashing down after some time?  Or do you want to relentlessly love your life, your world, your passions, and acknowledge that a great girl is only part of it and not the center of it?

The fact is that if you smother something it will die.  The pressure will cause a backlash, which will just shatter any semblance of happiness that may be possible.

Boundaries equals love, and getting some fresh pussy shouldn’t make you sacrifice that.  Not only will your life keep on that happy line that you’ve already set for yourself, but your girl will appreciate it.  Not to mention you will still WANT to romance her.  Since you don’t have this anchor of nagginess and bitchiness locked around your neck you will actually WANT to see your woman and do nice things for her.  Since you won’t have that “pussy on demand” dynamic, you’ll still have to chase after her which is more fulfilling than getting it without any effort.

So don’t let the vagina die.  Be a man, fulfill your responsibilities and treat your woman right.