Last night I went out with some new people that I’m adding to my social circle. Since moving out to the beach my social circle has quadrupled, it has been insane.
Anyway, after going to Art Walk in the Design District, which was dead, me, Nonex, and these two lesbians I just met that night went over to White Room.
I ran into Moonface girl, who was this girl that I met on myspace awhile ago but when we met she was too overweight and not attractive enough to pursue. But she really must be the token fat girl friend, because she ALWAYS has cute girls around her! Last time me and this girl hung out I met a couple of really cute girls, and this time she was with her cousin, who was extremely cute and my type.
Here’s what happened:
I walk into White Room and Moonface grabs me to say hi. I talk to her for a little bit, while her cousin hangs around in the background. I introduce her to the people I’m with, then introduce myself to her cousin. I knew right away I wanted to game her.
We’re in a circle at this point, and me and the Cousin are standing opposite of each other. I am talking to Moonface and she says something like she is totally PMS’ing and I start cracking on her about it, and I say that I always end up being every girl’s punching bag whenever they’re PMS’ing. I ask the Cousin if she’s PMS’ing too, and she said that she wasn’t.
I mention how it was a full moon, and usually women’s mentral cycles are inline with the moon cycle as well as that women who hang out with each other a lot usually have similar menstral cycles.
She’s laughing at that, and I move closer and cut off the circle, while Moonface starts talking to another friend of hers who had just walked up.
I ask her what her sign is, she says Leo, I say I am too. Then I say, “that’s it, we’re already screwed. We’re going to get super attracted to each other, and then we’re going to end up hating each other.”
She says, “I don’t think I can hate you.”
I say, “Oh that’s what you say now because you’re so attracted to me, but trust me, we’re going to hate each other. Ok, ok… just insult me right now so that I know how well I can deal with it.”
She laughs, “I don’t think I have anything bad to say.”
We laugh.
After that I move into normal questions, what she does, what she likes, what she’s doing in Miami, where is she living at, etc. Ends up we have a lot in common, like writing, music, and the arts – and she especially likes metal and hard rock. We had a pretty long conversation about music.
Let me mention also, that what I was saying really didn’t matter, but I was maintaining good eye contact, doing light kino, doing things to open her body language, etc. She was doing little IOI’s that sometimes are IOI’s but sometimes just someone being nervous – like looking down and shyly smiling, pushing her hair behind her ear, and other stuff like holding good eye contact, not moving away from my touch, etc.
I asked her if she played any instruments, she said no but that she would really like to. She asked me if I played anything, and I said, yes, and that I could teach her guitar if she really wanted to learn (that line is like 75 years old).
She says yes, and to contact her through myspace and we can meet up next week.
That’s it, said I’ll be in touch, and then went off to find my friends, dance for a little bit, then went home.
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hey bro. I like this report. Can you do me a favor and add some commentary to it. Instead of what was said, what dynamics were going on, like she qualified herself, or I made a statement which was meant to illicit a good response from her, and so on if you get my drift.
I have a hard time breaking down theory especially with my ADD.
Hey Stealth,
I totally understand what you’re asking for, but I really don’t have any answers to give you.
I just talk and have a conversation. The only things that I could say that I knowingly do is kino and eye contact, but those have become so second nature that I am doing it with everyone now.
Truthfully, I don’t know what I was doing, I just was doing it. Why did I say the PMS’ing thing? I’m not really sure, other than that Moonface talked about having PMS, so I turned to her Cousin and asked her if she was having PMS.
I suppose that is really what I’m trying to preach in my blog and style, there’s no need to be contrived or think about anything. I am just being myself, I’m not looking to illicit anything, I’m not looking to qualify, I’m not looking to build comfort, etc… I really just don’t think about it.
I hope that makes sense.
Lex
The perfect example of how regular conversation can lead to a good thing. No tricks played here and no routines applied. Just everyday in-the-moment banter.
Saying a bold statement like the “PMS” thing was something that got people’s attention and in a good way because they knew you were teasing.
I think what was good was that you noticed her shyness and stepped it down a notch and got right into getting to know her. Pretty much assuming that she was attracted to you, it didn’t matter what you said.
Good stuff, Lex.
This is a good point but I think it is also a really easy way to get caught up in “tactics”, which I think a lot of guys do when they learn David DeAngelo’s Cocky & Funny.
It was perfectly in the moment, Moonface initiated the movement of the conversation that way, because she has a crazy sense of humor like that, and I just went with it. But the hazard is always needing to be funny or have a quick, funny comment, aka Attachment, which is not a good thing.
I try to maintain a fun and funny vibe as long as I am not attached to being funny and having a fun vibe. I am just being myself without needing to be anything else besides that. Sometimes I’m funny, sometimes I’m serious, it all just… occurs.
Glad you enjoyed.