First Time Out in awhile

I got a txt last night from a friend and she asked me to go to a club with her Downtown.  I haven’t been out to a club in a long time, and I also hadn’t seen my friend in awhile either.

For anyone who doesn’t read my blog regularly, I don’t ever go out “sarging” or doing anything for the sole sake of getting girls.  I haven’t been to a bar or a club because I haven’t wanted to or had any reason to.  I don’t go out “searching” for women anymore.  It’s fucking pathetic.

So my friend and I went out.  We caught a band, we had some drinks, I ran into some old friends and some people who I’ve been wanting to avoid.  Nonetheless, it was a fun night.

I didn’t do one single “confrontational” approach – meaning walking up to a group of people and forcing them to like me through means of an “opinion opener” or whatever other dorky Mystery Method thing you want to call it.  I know I’m constantly going on and on about this, but this PUA stuff is so counter-intuitive to normal behavior.  “Set your phasers to stun,” as Nonex would say.

Here’s several things I noticed from the night, though.  My friend and I spent the beginning part of the night sitting down talking and having drinks.  Sure it was great for interacting with each other, but it’s only when you’re up and moving that things REALLY happen.  I know this is a duh statement, but even in the world on non-game you need to at least give yourself an opportunity for interaction.

Of course, the benefits of non-game are that you don’t have to work yourself up into a frenzy (finding your nimbus) and you don’t have to overcome your Approach Anxiety, because there’s no approach.

I only had one interaction.  A girl was standing next to me, and I noticed that she had open body language towards me (which sometimes means something, sometimes it means nothing).  Someone bumped her walking by and she got a pretty nasty look on her face, like “don’t touch me”.  Towards her I said, “what rude fuckers” with a laugh, and it opened up a conversation.

I don’t really remember much of anything that I said, not that it matters because words mean absolutely nothing in an interaction (93% non-verbal, 7% verbal).  I did try to bring a little bit of kino into the interaction and be laid back and humorous.  I know I wasn’t on top of my game, but who cares.   I also used Brent Smith’s tactic of giving her my phone number and then walked away.  Not much more than a 5 minute interaction.

What was most striking is that I seriously don’t care what happened.  I didn’t feel any pressure, I was mainly just being friendly.  Also, the most important thing to me is practicing giving out my number.  If she calls then that would be fine, if she doesn’t then that’s fine also.  Either way, it just doesn’t matter.