This is from a journal I kept while on vacation on a cruise ship from Dec 20 through Dec 24.
It is currently 1:30 am and I just got back to my room.
Fuck, it is just not fair. Its not fair having this knowledge and knowing how to use it. I’m starting to really feel badly for guys who don’t take the time to learn game.
Here’s what happened. I went to this bar with my family, and I spot these two little cuties sitting at the bar. I noticed one of them before, but I thought they were really young. When I got there, there was already this one douchebag hitting on the girls, it was so weak. I think he had bought some Cognac and he was trying to impress the girls with it. Of course they were completely not impressed, they didn’t even want to drink it. Note to any other PUA dork out there reading this, DRINKING IS NEVER A DHV! Even a cool drink or whatever. The only thing it shows is that you are a potential alcoholic.
Anyway, I knew that I had to come in there strong, because these two girls may have literally been the only over 18 single girls on the entire boat. There was this one thing that Jeffy said in his seminar that stood out to me. If you go into a set, go in STRONG. Grab your balls, and just go in. Punch shit down and out of the way. Opener, BAM, Story, BAM, Joke, BAM!
We sit down, and I spot the bartender from the night before who I had made a connection with by chatting him up and sitting through his magic show. I call out to him, “hey man, any magic tonight?” and zoom, the girls turn around and the eyes are on me. I immediately set myself apart from the chodes.
I walk up to the bar a little bit after that, right next to these girls, and I start chatting up the bartender. Over my shoulder, I say little comments to the girls like, “hey, did he make lemons magically appear from his hands yet?” And I was in. We talked about random bullshit, where we were from, etc, etc. I was just joking around and entertaining myself like I had been for the whole rest of the cruise. It just wasn’t a big deal. I walk away to go and sit back with my family because I’m not a rude fucker.
Not much longer after that, they get approached by two different groups of chodes. The first group were these two guys, who may have been somewhere close to their age. The bartender started doing his magic, and I sat next to the two guys, and start cracking jokes with them, and sort of making fun of them to their face. I took their attention off the girls, and I saw the girls attention get on me. I walked away again to sit with my family and talk with them some more, and the guys went back to trying to run game on the girls but it was so weak. It is just not fair! But at least they had the balls to walk up and talk to the girls, which lord knows I never had the ability to do on my own before learning game.
After that another group of guys walk up to them. One of the guys is REALLY good looking, and the girls are really chatting this guy up. But his game is SO WEAK! He said he was in his 30’s, and he kept focusing on the fact that the girls were young looking. “Oh you must have really good fake IDs”, etc, etc. I mean, once is ok, a decent neg, I guess, but he just kept harping on it. I was thinking to myself, “my god, this guy is so good looking, and the two girls are hitting on him, and all he has to do is basically stand there, but damn, do you think constantly talking about how different in age you are is a good thing?” There was nothing SEXY about it at all.
All the chodes eventually left, and I swooped right in, and said to them a pretty standard thing that I say lately. “Man, you know what my favorite thing in the world is?” Then I get this really odd look on my face, and say, “so where you from? What do you do? What do you study? Oh, cool, cool, cool.” And they’re cracking up. The basically set the tone for the conversation. I’m laying jokes on them, making them crack up, just having fun. Of the two girls I was MUCH more attracted to one of them, so I sat next to her so I could kino. I started with light arm touching for just that point. After a good 15 or 20 minutes of talking I said, “look, I’m not a rude asshole who just leaves their family alone, so I’m gonna sit with them for a little bit. Are you guys going to be hanging out here?” They say yes, so I go back to my family.
Another note, I was the life of my family’s entire vacation. They all even said something to me afterward that my energy kept everything light and fun the WHOLE time. We would even be at dinner, and I’m just having fun, and cracking jokes and having a good time. So when I was sitting with my family the girls saw that I was having a lot of fun with them also.
It was just all these little things that kept adding up.
I run back to my room, change, and go back to the girls. My game was so tight. It was honestly THE BEST set I’ve ever run. But mainly because I wasn’t even doing anything. I just did what I knew to do, I lived in the moment, enjoyed their company, etc. Also, I had a really good vibe with this girl. We both had a lot of the same interests and she is a smart girl. I had a good conversation with her, and it was a lot of fun, etc.
On the subcommunication level, I kept up with the kino. I didn’t do anything in a pre-planned way, I just am not allowing myself to be afraid to touch someone if I feel like it. I don’t restrict myself from it. Also, I made a realization or two about the DiCarlo escalation ladder. Again, with everything else, it doesn’t have to be forced. As we’re talking more and more, the girl starts “kino’ing” me, and being more lose and friendly. Before I know it, she’s leaning against my lap coping feels of my dick. God, girls are sleazy!
Here’s where things get a little tricky. I was doing a really good job of keeping both girls entertained. At one point, the other girl, who is my targets sister, is saying to me “you have such a good personality, we love meeting people like you on cruises”, so I figured that I had diffused her. So when the bar is closing, my target (HB-PSL) is all over me, and her sister is saying stuff like, “come on, lets go to the room and go to sleep” and PSL is telling her to go away. It was pretty funny.
The thing is the girl was acting really drunk, so I knew her sister was trying to drag her away. But I knew that PSL wasn’t THAT drunk, she just was acting that way so that we could fuck.
We head off to outside of the ship, so that we can lean on the railing and make out some. I want to go to the front of the ship, and while we’re walking from one part of the ship to the other, we run into her sister, and she sucks her up, and drags her down to their room. FUCK! What shitty luck. I mean, it was just a totally random place to run into her.
We go down to her room, and her sister goes in, and we stand in the hallway to make out some. This is where I made a really critical mistake. I turned into “weird seducer guy”, and sucked into my head and started making a strategy for the situation. I kept hearing Jeffy’s voice in my head saying, “Stage II make out is the best for getting a number close.” It was so stupid. I didn’t just enjoy that I had this adorable girl who I liked infront of me, grabbing my shirt to make out with her. I wasn’t losing myself in the moment.
I just pulled away and said I would see her the next day, and I was acting like “too cool seducer guy”, it was awful. Completely unnatural, and incongruent, and I’m sure she felt it in a heartbeat.
What I felt I wanted to do, which I didn’t, was say to her, “look, I really like you. I think you’re cool, and sweet, and I think we have a lot in common. I really am liking making out with you, and I think you’re adorable. But you’re also really drunk, and I don’t want you to look back at this tomorrow and thing that I’m just some weird guy who you met at a bar while you were drunk and regret it. So let’s kind of chill, and get together tomorrow night and really get to know each other.” That was how I was feeling, and I didn’t go with it. Instead I started to fall into “pickup” guy strategies instead of going with my own feelings.
The next day she had TOTAL buyers remorse. I went to say hello, and she couldn’t even look me in the eye. Oh well. Lesson learned. I do understand that I don’t have a lot of practice at this point of things, so I wasn’t aware of what I was doing in the moment. I do know now, and I do know to avoid it if it happens again. So I did learn an important lesson from it.
Filed under: Field Report (Solo) | Tagged: acting too cool, bar tactics, being open with your feelings, Being the Center of Attention, Buyers Remorse, chodes, DiCarlo escalation ladder, getting in with the bartender, going in strong, Jeffy, Kino, magic, mistake with closing, PSL, setting yourself apart, subcommunication, turning into weird seducer guy, weak game
