by Neil Strauss (aka Style)
by Mystery
by David DeidaThis is just a short entry, but a very strong lesson in game.
I was at work last Wednesday, and I spot this cute little thing in the self-help section (by the way, this is the best place to pick up girls in a bookstore beacuse they’re pretty desperate for a guy to fuck them to solve their life problems, sad but true), but I start talking myself out of approaching her. You know, for all the same reasons every guy does, and for the reasons that I used to. “She doesn’t want to be bothered”, “she’s in the middle of something”, “I shouldn’t interrupt her”, whatever bad excuse I could come up with.
Guys, girls LIKE to be approached. It’s flattering as hell to them. They love it. Just don’t creep them out, and have good game. We know the tricks, the behavior, and the attitude. Just go for it douche!
Thankfully my mindfulness practice (thanks to Nonex) prevented me from such harsh thoughts and criticisms to myself, but to you guys out there in internet-land I’ll verbally abuse you all i want and you’ll fuckin’ like it!
I gently told myself, “just find out what she’s reading” or “make a good book recommendation”. So I opened her indirect and situational. Without looking at her, I say, “Have you read…” then I turned to look at her, “Eckhart Tolle”. She lit the fuck up, it was amazing. God, I forgot the response you can get sometimes if you’re working game properly.
Ok, so this new girl I’m going to call HBCaliAirHead… can you guess why? She moved here two weeks ago, awesome for me, she needs to find out about good restaurants in the area, even better for me, and she is rich enough that when I told her that if she was going to be eating out in the area alot that it’ll be probably 20 bucks a meal, and her response, “oh, that’s no big deal.” BINGO! Take out the suga mama dice, I may have just hit 7’s!
I got her number, and told her that I would tell her about good restaurants in the area as soon as I got my info together. I think I txt’ed her the next night, but to no response. More on this later.
Just goes to show you guys, you may think a girl is sitting there not wanting to be approached but 99% of the time she does. Either that or she’s a lesbian with a smelly vagina anyway.
Filed under: Field Report (Solo) | Tagged: , Approach Anxiety, Eckhart Tolle, Excuses to not open, HBCaliAirHead, Lesson in Game, Mindfulness, Nonex, Opening, Self-Help, Suga Mama
Lex, why did you text her right away? Maybe she was one of those girls you should have waited a day or two on, and then called her and been like “Hey listen, I have some big plans the next few days but I know your new to the area and I wanted to make a recommendation to you for dinner, but hey if your not busy maybe we could go together?”
Another thing about texting – I know a lot of people who are starting to get blocks on all texts, as they have gotten phone bills +100’s of dollars more due to happy finger-itis.
Pick up the phone and call them, this way you’ll know, and leave messages. Just my .02.
M
Yeah totally, I’m trying to find some time to write a blog on txt game, and what I’m realizing for it. More on that later, though.
personally, texts are amazing…i hate phone calls. i never leave messages. but mostly because the principle is stupid. i call you, leave a message, you listen to the message and either i just say call me back, which you would anyway, or i tell you what i need and you call me back and i repeat myself. fuck it. just call me back, and ill just call you. leave a message, i wont listen, ill just call you back
The problem is overtxting without calling. But don’t let me get ahead of myself.